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Journal prompts for Healthy Boundaries

March 24, 2021

Process

What I’ve learned is this: I cannot give from an empty cup.  When I give from depletion, I step out of my true identity. I am no longer a caring empath but become the very opposite: a bitter and resentful four-letter word.

 

I must have the freedom to choose so I can gift my time and efforts from a place of abundance.  This aligns me with God’s original design. The truth is, when I give from a heart of willful abundance (not guilt or obligation), my presence truly unburdens others.

 

I’m still learning what is mine (to carry) and what is not.  I must continually remind myself everyone has right to have their own experience (of me). This helps me stay out of the toxic loop of people-pleasing and self-loathing; it fortifies my innards to know other’s opinions (and endless needs) are not something I can control or meet.  God did not design us to manage others! God designed each of us to have a healthy dependance on Him. For me, embracing this simple truth was the key to unlocking personal freedom.  I hope it does the same for you.

 

 

Journal prompts for Proper Boundaries:

 

Journal to yourself:

Think of the situation (or relationship) causing you duress.

 

  1. List your responsibilities.
  2. List the obligations (or ‘shoulds’) that aren’t yours, but you’ve taken up.
  3. Define your needs.
  4. Define your desires.
  5. Make a list of what you will make yourself available for.
  6. Make a list of what you will no longer be available for.

 

Journal to God:

  1. Thank God for your unique gift of caring for your loved ones. This is NOT a curse.
  2. Recognize God works with peace, so take a moment and ask God what His peace feels like in your body and mind. Sit in the stillness of this peace.
  3. Ask God to help you write an acknowledgement for what this person/situation has taught you about yourself.
  4. Visualize what restoration looks like in yourself and this relationship.
  5. Ask God for the first steps to creating healthy boundaries with this person. Journal His answers and when the situation arises again, go back to God’s directions.

 

“Dear Lord,

Thank you for the family you’ve entrusted to me; help each of us to remain sensitive to the lessons we are learning with and through each other. Bind us with unconditional love, loosen us from spirits of control, guilt and manipulation.

I give my childhood disappointments to you.  Forgive me for comparing our household with others. Unburden me from the weight of resentment and hope deferred.

Bless my heart to be grateful by highlighting my blessings.

Unravel any un-healthy dynamic; separate what is mine to carry and what is mine to let go.  Help me establish healthy boundaries so I can enjoy the relationships you’ve given. Give me the patience and wisdom to lovingly enforce any changes that need to be made.

If I want something new, I must heed your voice and be the change my family needs to see.

Bless our home with harmony, abundance, good communication and loving support.  Let your peace lead and heal this home. In Jesus’ name, amen.”

 

“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” Isaiah 26:3

 

“And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.” Colossians 3:15

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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