1.You must have accountability with people you trust. (Someone you have a history with so they understand where you’ve come from and your tendencies. They also know how far you’ve progressed.)
- You are required to ask Hard questions and look at behavior to discern unmet needs behind the undesired behavior with the help of the Holy Spirit.
3. No judgment. Look together for the roots of the issues. Compassionate love for the other will help them see their true identity.
- Continue to follow up with each other for ongoing support and accountability.
- Remember Sin is not your identity. You are a loved child of God. Remove anything that does not belong to you.
Community: Commit to Engage with a growth and maturity based community where things can get messy.
- Find people who inspire you, challenge you and provide wisdom.
- A transformative community is one who builds trust, believes the best and looks for how to build new cycles of trust together.
- Engage in prayer, prophecy and decreeing the Word together. You are building each other up in the spoken and written word.
- Enjoy fun and genuine connection with your peeps.
Get Therapy, Healing and Freedom when needed.
- Address repetitive patterns and subconscious belief systems rooted in abuse, trauma vows, unforgiveness or pain.
- Get deliverance so you can: Break the enemy’s strongholds in your emotional and mental pathways.
“But if we keep living in the pure light that surrounds Him, we share unbroken fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, continually cleanses us from all sin.” 1 John 1:7
Declaration over yourself:
“I am chosen and destined by God to live with Him into the fullness of the original design He created for me. I am a new creation in Christ and He is continuously moving me into greater wholeness.”
If you’re having trouble making healthy friends and connections, pray this prayer:
“Heavenly Father,
I praise you for your friendship, your provision and the ways you’ve supplied my needs in the past.
It’s your divine design that I should be engaged in community.
This is something I’ve struggled with.
Connection has been hard, and I don’t know where to start.
Lord, open my eyes to see the opportunity before me.
I was born to love and be loved and healing cannot be complete without the bonds of connection—to you and others.
Lord, fill me with a heart of compassion, to not just see my needs but to make myself available for others.
There is a fear I will be rejected, abandoned and betrayed. But, I have the security of our relationship, so I choose to be brave.
In Jesus’ name, thank you for being my first love and best friend, from this secure place, I can open my heart to receive more. Amen.”
*A special thank you to Lauren Hasson for this teaching and for living this out with me, personally.
